So hear’s the deal. We all do it whether we like it or not… we talk shit. Not just on the bay floor or heading out for patrol or hanging out in the team room, we do it where no one else can hear it, in our heads. We talk so much shit to ourselves sometimes that it really begins to impact well, everything!
On these two episodes Nick and I get right down to it and look at why this happens, where it comes from and what we can do about it.
Hopefully, by the end of these episodes you’ll see that you’re not getting anything out of it and, as a matter of fact, you’re probably f’n yourself up even more by allowing it to continue.
I was planning on releasing this in a few weeks but based on the conversations I’ve been having… it’s go time for this puppy!
Here are the highlights from Monday’s episode:
- Stop talking shit to yourself. Like really!
- It’s a mental habit developed over a long period of time so it’s going to take some effort.
- Pay attention to how judgmental you are of yourself (and others)
- Most of our “motivators” are negative or fear based. Time to change that crap!
- Start pausing to see things in a more realistic view.
- Follow Nick’s Guidance below (and read the two articles here on the site – links below).
- Download the worksheet because just doing it in your mind won’t work!
NICK’S 6 STEPS (quick form, hit the article for more)
- HIT THE PAUSE BUTTON
- IDENTIFY THE TRIGGER
- NOTICE THE “AUTOMATIC THOUGHT”
- IDENTIFY YOUR EMOTIONAL REACTION/RATE INTENSITY
- GENERATE AN ALTERNATIVE THOUGHT/NARRATIVE (REALITY BASED)
- RE-RATE THE INTENSITY OF YOUR EMOTIONS BASED ON NEW LOOK
You can grab Nick’s downloadable form right here:
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Hi, my name’s Nick Wignall. My goal is to teach everything I know about how to use psychology to create better habits and achieve our goals. Nick’s Mission To take the best ideas from psychology and behavioral science, explain them in a friendly, approachable way, and illustrate how we can use them to better achieve our goals and aspirations. Sounds lofty, yeah? It definitely is. And if I’m honest, I’m a little intimidated by it. I’ve got my own struggles and insecurities, so trying to help others work through theirs can be daunting, for sure. But as a psychologist and therapist, what I do every day is help folks who are struggling apply good ideas from decades of psychological research to their own uniques lives in an understandable and effective way. My site is all about doing the same thing on a bigger scale. Because while not all of us need therapy, everyone can take advantage of the insights and techniques of behavioral science to better achieve their goals.